A mãe que entrega um filho em adoção: desvelando dores, preconceitos e possibilidades de ressignificações

Abstract

The experience of women who delivered the newborn child in adoption is a theme permeated with preconceptions about these progenitors, stigmatized as soulless. Child abandonment has always been present in society. But as the concept of family and childhood changed, in the fifteenth century, this act became reprehensible. With the construction of the category Women, throughout history, and the Myth of Mother Love, it has been established that the love to the child is natural to women, and that they must care of home and children. This feminine ideal related to motherhood exists until today. This study aimed to understand the experience of women who give their child in adoption, seeking aids to the refuge directed to them. A qualitative research was conducted, with 3 women who delivered the child by a legal institution of Natal/RN. The study was anchored on Gadamerian Hermeneutics, and the instruments were Narrative Interviews with the use of scenes. In dialogues with the narrative, we reached the following theoretical chapters: 1) Being Woman and Being Mother: is to suffer in paradise?, we dialogue with the construction of the feminine and the conceptions of being a woman and being a mother to our collaborators and then we presented two themes: Being woman: between perdition and honor, and Being a mother is good. In the first the collaborators showed that being a woman is not to be lost, that implies being honored, and, in case you are on the street, the honor would be by exercising labor activities. About being a mother, they narrate that the good ones does not mistreat the children and cares about themselves; 2) Before The Delivery: Decision brings the history of childhood and child abandonment, relating to the motivations of our collaborators to deliver; their difficulties to create (financial difficulties, lack of family support and parent, drug abuse), and the possibility to offer a better future to the child; 3) Delivery and Its After we identified the distinction that the mothers make between abandonment and delivery, the hope they have to meet the child in the future, the comfort they found in other children, the fear of convictions, the pains in the delivery, and the invisibility of these pains and how they promote prolonged and unauthorized grief. It is hoped that this study will shed light on this issue, enabling reflections about the stereotypes around them and possible reinterpretation, contributing to quality of care to mothers in the institutions that serve them, making it relevant to such professionals and expansion of knowledge in psychology.